Divorce cases is found in any human society and its existed since the inception of human life. In Malaysia, the high percentage of divorce cases have been there. Based on the statistics, the average of divorce cases in our country is up to 20% per year!!
Do you know what causes divorce cases is keep increasing in Malaysia??
Yes, today, I would like to share some most common factors of this social issue here.
First and foremost, introduce the 3 most common factors of divorce, they are:
Lack of communication!!
money!!
children!!
lack of communication is one of the most common factors of divorce because when two people lack communication, they are unable to solve problems that may occur in the marriage. Many married couples think that the minor problems that occur in their marriage, are insignificant, and are not worth talking about; however, they fail to realize that even the smallest things can cause conflict between the two when they are not able to solve them through communication.
Many people say, “Money is the root of all evil”. Yes! Money can be the root of all problems in the marriage. Why I say so? This is because when one spouse makes all of the financial decisions, and the other spouse does not agree with the decisions that he or she is making, then conflicts can occur between the two of them. This financial responsibility can affect the marriage drastically, when what seemed to be enough for the two, is not enough to provide for a family.
okay,that's all.
Do you agree with this?
let's discuss!
share your opinion with us
:)
17 comments:
hello..
actually there are many reason why people getting divorce...i agree with you...and in the same time, i think we must to discuss what are the main causes from the list that i and you had drop here and from my last post...so we just choose what's the most important right?and after that..we discuss it more detail..do you agree with me?
i want to add example here, today many people easy to get divorce..especially to young people 18-29 years old..the factor that mostly people said is from the social network..
as we know, today there are many social network that we can easy to access without any problem like my space, facebook, tweeter and so on..so from this, we can get many friends all of the world..if they used it just for fun and any something else without thinking their self and their family first..maybe it can getting worst and problem to them..
i hope you understand what i wrote..:)
sorry to say that, i'm not so clear with what you said. Are you mean that after we choose the main causes then only put it as our report contain?
yes,for the same cases I had read from the new paper too. Nowaday,facebook becoming one of the leading causes of divorce internet msrriage breakups.A lot of people saying they had found out things about their partners on Facebook. I think that the most common reason seemed to be people having inappropriate sexual chats with people they were not supposed to
firstly i'm so sorry because you can't understand what i'm said..
yes..thats what i mean..we choose only the main factor then put it in our report...
any suggestion?
fistly i agree with salwa and lynn........
mother in-law also causes divorce cases in Malaysia.it is because mother in-law could also caus e divorce case betwen couples.
there some mother in-law dislike their son in-law and force their children to divorce
actuall,mothr in-law cannot involve in problem marriage couple. if mother in-law involve the problem can getting serious. for example indian mostly divorce bessauce mother in-law
hi...sorry guys..i had a wifi problem. Due to that, i can't comment.. i agree with you, lynn. lack of communication is one of the factors. that's mean, when man or woman back from work, surely they feel tired. so that, they want to rest. from that, they couldn't communicate each others.
from my information, 12% is from miscommunication, 11.5 % is irresponsible, 8.8% is mother or father in-law, 7.1% is drug addict, 1.6 % money problem, 0.5 % is abuse and 12.6 % is others.
absolutely, mother in law can't intervention. meanwhile, they are as a guider, not influence in any couples to make a decision. from my article, it is shows that 30 % is among Indian and 7.4 % is among Malay. it is so high percentage among Indian than Malay.
hello guys..
so..we had discussed this post and i think we can know what are the most things that we want to put in our report later..
in addition, from the other article that i have read, the same factor of divorce in this post and our discussion is
1) drugs problems
2) communication problems,
3) problem with in-law an do on..
actually, from the article, the researcher had found, that the divorce rate in Malaysia seem small when compare to some developed countries like the US and others.
salwa, that's right...i also found that causes..as we know, when someone take a drug..surely,give the bad effect to their family..besides that,they will ignore their responsibility as a person in the family.they will do what they want without thinking. guys, am i right?
in this case, i'm very sympathy.it is because they will hit, act roughly to their children and also their spouse. due to that, they will get divorce. it is the best way to avoid this problem..
sorry lynn,
actually, i'm not very clear under point children is the most common factors of divorce..can you explain more details..is it the causes?or the effect of the divorce? i think children can be the effect..but i'm not sure it can be the causes...when i think deeply, maybe can..it's mean stress with the behaviour of their children..sorry again if i missunderstanding..
ya, children is the most common factors and also a point for effect of divorce.
Children become the point for cause of divorce because sometimes the arguments between husband and wife are cause by their child. They may argue over the decisions made for their children, when one of the partners does not agree with the other in certain situations.
So, I don't think that this point can consider as stress with the behavior if their children.
any examples can support your point?maton
i agree with maton,
i think the children is more to effect of divorce, but in the certain time, maybe children also the factor of divorce as example : the quantity of son for one family, especially to a low finance family( poor family ) or big family can make a problem to parents..so, they too stress with the other problem about the family and get divorce
sorry lynn,
but i not agree if decisions made from their children is the causes of parents divorce..
in my points of view, its because..any problem with children, parents will try to settle it, to make the best of their children..
for example, if some of their children making problem, and then they argue and can't make decision, then get divorce easily..while, they don't have problem between of them before..
i think, not usually happen, because, most of parents want the best to help their children,.and its impossible if people ask, for example: why they divorce? and answer : because of the decision making from their son..
as maton said, i also think children can be more to effect, but, if you have the supporting points, you can give here..this just my view..thanks.
It's okey, no need to apologize, you're just given your opinion.
Since majority are not agree that children be a point for factor of divorce ,then we just remove it from our report main content for this part.
Although it's not a common factor, but I still agree that children is one of the factor that can causes divorce.
I have one suggestion here, do you guys agree that we put some others point into "Other factors of divorce cases" in our report?
emmm..it's a good idea...that means this point still under the factors, right?
actually, there are many factor that we can put in the report right? like what i have post before from this post. so, i think we can choose what the most important thing and many resource of the factor..
absolutely true..i will combine it in our report..
i just put the most causes..as we know..we have to limit words..
yes..so..we must put only the most common in the report...hopefully madam can understand what we have done in the report..
No longer in love...the one reason about factors of divorce
In most cases, no longer in love
was caused by marriage burnout. Some symptoms like with little emotional connection,
disengaged relationship for partners to pay attention with. Nonetheless, people often stay
married due to their children, their religious values, or for economic reason
i agree with you, ros..
i think most spouses no longer in love because they are very busy with their work to pursuit wealth until they don't have much time together, and even time for themselves. So day by day, their love fade and the possibility of divorce is higher.
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