After shared article about the factors of divorce, I would like to tell you about what I have read from the article which talking about the effects of divorce. Couples who are divorced are facing some negative effects which are:
Added Responsibilities
Effects On Children
Social Stigma
Legal Matters
Couples who are divorced are also saddled with added responsibilities and roles, particularly with regard to the care of children. Each parent has to be both father and mother to the children. Some mothers may even have to go out and work to maintain their children.
In any marriage break-up, it is the children who are most likely to be affected psychologically. They are the unfortunate victims of the bickerings between parents. Faced with their own problems, parents tend to disregard their children's feelings, thus making the children feel that they are unwanted. If the situation is not handled properly, they may develop a negative attitude towards parents and marriage, as a result of what they see happening in the home. It is usual for couples with marital problems to think more of their own feelings than of their children. They may have the interest of their children at heart, but the children are not to know this. All the children know is that something is terribly wrong, but they have no idea what it is nor can they find the words to describe it.
The social stigma that is usually attached to a divorce is inevitable. These are only some of the difficulties that couples are likely to face upon divorce. While it is true that in many cases a partner in marriage comes to this painful decision because of the irresponsible behaviour of the other partner, it is also true that a divorce may not be the best solution to the problem.
Divorce will bring about changes in the status of a person, from the legal point of view. Among the issues that may pose a problem are:
- more restrictions in owning a HDB flat imposed on a divorced person;
- higher personal income taxes;
- more responsibilities as a single parent;
- legal costs for the divorce proceedings;
- losses may be incurred when parties are forced to sell their flat or to surrender it to HDB;
- further conflict may occur in Court if one party fails to comply with the Order of Court.
10 comments:
hye guys
firstly thanks for the post, but im so sorry to say that im not clear with this post, especially at explanation of social stigma.. i think you can explain it clearly and u also can put the example of the situation. .
Sure, Salwa
I am going to explain deeply about the point for social stigma.
As what i have read from a book,stigma is a powerful phenomenon, inextricably linked to the value placed on varying social identities.
Goffman (1963) described stigma as a sign or a mark that designates the bearer as "spoiled" and therefore as valued less than "normal" people.
In my opinion, stigma is also related to prejudice. Regarding to the mindset of majority people in Malaysia,divorce is category as a shame thing that not support to be happened. Thus, this prejudice from social is making huge pressure to those decided to divorce or have been past the experience of divorce.
Salwa, do you agree that social stigma be a point for effect of divorce??
thanks lynn, okay..so..this also means prejudice?
its up to you if you want social stigma be a point of this effect
and from my view based on the article i have read, actually there are many effect of divorce :
1) them self
2) children(family)
3) finance
4) job
5) society
as a example for celebrity,working people and so on.. and for this point, i want to give an example @ situation for celebrity that had divorce
when we talk about the consequences of divorce, i would like give my idea public perception towards celebrities.
Recently, more than 10 celebrity's couples had declared their separation. it is a big number for Malaysian context.
Each divorce is unique and it will have negative effects to the children if the couples have kids, to both family, and also to the career. Every magazines or newspaper contains story about celebrities’ personal life because they are public figure and people around them want to know more about their personal life.
So, this situation can give bad impact to them. The fans will talk about these issues either positively or negatively.
Personally, i could not avoid myself from thinking that every celebrities who have got married will end their marriage with divorce. like a virus which spread from one couple to another. ....this is not a prayer but this is what i think about....
im sorry if my comment too long, but i just to give the real image of the effect from divorce. and i hope you all can give the other effect and situation for any cases in Malaysia.
yes, for me its quite similar with prejudice from social.
noted :)
thanks for your comment, salwa
your long comment is helping me to do my report :)
can you provide us some description to the point you given??
i agree with lynn about effect of divorce...
divorce also effect on mental health. it is because may threatens own and children mental stability. the common feeling is that divorce, no matter how necessary, exacts a huge emotional toll and engenders angry and bitterness in the participants.
the problem most commonly seen at community mental health centers stem directly or indirectly from unhappy marriages and poor family life. these problem run the gamut from anxiety and depression to emotionally disturbed children. they are caused by unhappiness, anger, frustration and inability to communicate with family members...
thanks lynn..
okay, here, i put some description for my points. hope u guys will understand it.
1) children(family)
- the most bad effect of divorce is to their family especially their kids. Kids did not realize what's going on between their parents. This problem will lead to other problems such as their school,friends, neighbour and so on. its too long if we want to give more details about the kids, later on, you can put in the report.
2) finance
- the economic household will become unstable. its because, their responsibility towards their family increase.
3) job
- it will lead to become nonproductive worker or focus to their work because of their household problems.
4) society
- A divorced person may face social problems which is the society expectation towards single mother will makes them feel embarrassed to face the outer world.
5) themself
- instead of having those problems as state as above, the divorce itself will makes them trauma and suffer.
thanks, salwa ^^
my pleasure..:)
yeah...totally agree with you guys..
when something happen, surely have the effect or impact..maybe can be in positive or can be negative..it can be say like pro and contra..such as who get divorce because of abusing problem..it is the best way to safe themself..but..can be danger...it is so difficult to face it..
and make the last decision..how could be better..is it continue the relationship and marriage that full of abusing??or break up??
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